A few years back, I remember staring at my monstrous face hidden behind the facade of love and kindness. I was heart broken to have witnessed this side of me. I had begun to ask myself, “Am I still manipulative? Am I pretentious?” I was relieved to realize that I was not totally a manipulative or pretentious person. However, awareness was shedding light on many of the hidden monsters in me, just as things get visible in the flickering candle flame once our eyes get adjusted to the darkness in the room.
Those days, when people hated or disliked me, my ongoing spiritual training helped me view such people with compassion. But then I also noticed that when they relentlessly fought against the love I had for them, I had something in me that would not let me walk away from them.
The initial intent of true unconditional love would change forms and go into a subtle ego battle. I could literally hear my subconscious whisper, “I will continue to smother you with my love till it kills your hatred!” It seemed to be a serious agenda! On the onset of things this seems to be a good idea. But if one would view it at a deeper level, one would notice that it is the desire of the ego to win.
My deeper awareness knew that those who came into our lives with hatred, did so to transform us. They are strictly performing in this role of hate and cannot transform themselves in their dynamics with us until we have learnt the lesson that was meant for us. In time however, if the learning is done with, they may reform and come in a different role and love us. But generally, the haters we are surrounded by are created in our lives to hate us till we learn from hatred. Period! It has nothing to do with the person.
Therefore, the more we insist on changing their hatred with our love, the more they will forcefully come down on us with intense hate. Not because they are bad at heart, but because they are playing the role of our greatest teachers. Their hatred is transforming us and we must allow that transformation to unfold through them. The faster we learn the lessons through their hate, and walk away while offering our love and compassion silently in our hearts for them, the quicker we have set us both free from mutual Karmic badgering.
Hatred is the deepest form of love. I know I may sound insane saying this but this is true. Our strongest haters are our strongest lovers. Only where there has been deep love, can there be intense hate. Hate expends more energy and time than love. Our haters spend the longest time thinking of us.
So why not make a simple attempt of co-existence instead of trying to win over hatred? And all that one needs to do with hate is take the learning from the experience, ignore the involvement of the person, offer love and compassion to the role of life class teacher they are playing and simply progress ahead on your journey.
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Anuradha Kamath is a Wellness Consultant and Behavioral therapist and assists her clients both in group and individually, as a Hypnotherapist, Energy Healer, Metaphor Therapist, Sound Healer, Access Bar Practitioner and Laughter Yoga Therapist.
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