“In the fire, within the heat,
Where there are a few sparks,
Flirting the woods;
That is love.”
Somewhere on the topic of love, I read these simple lines and they touched me deep. I pondered over my fascination for the feeling called love. I have witnessed the best and the worst manifest out of this feeling. There are those who have found their life back through love and those who lost it all for love. In the name of love many a lives have flourished or perished.
When they ask me if I have ever loved someone beyond limits. I hug myself tight and say, “The person I love most is right here inside me. Is she not awesome? Someday, you must try loving her too. If you can.”
For me, love is that little spark that ignites the Universe and keeps it warm. However to set the entire Universe burning in the flames of love one has to always begin by sizzling in the fires of unconditional love for self. One can only give out what one has within.
After one basks in love for self, the next step naturally seems to find that one special person to share that tremendous feeling welling up inside. This step however, has its own topsy-turvy turns. Love when misinterpreted through expectations, can stem out as insecurity and attachment resulting in the loss of the pure essence of the feeling. Resulting in as they say ‘Falling In Love’.
I often advise my clients to not fall but to rise in love. A love affair should be aimed a creating something formidable that would impact the world around us. If love does not inspire, does not grow the lovers, does not bring us closer to ourselves, it is no love at all. Perhaps it is only a choice made to fill our void or what we lack.
Most lovers instead of celebrating whatever time they have with each other, spend in fear of not having each other forever. Let me pen this insecurity, instability and fear of not being forever and ever, that a couple in love goes through which renders them incapable of doing greater things together.
“The logs of wood lay with each other silently.
Through the dampness & cold.
Hoping they are picked to flame the fire place together.
After being with each other for 2 seasons all they wanted,
Was to turn to ashes as they burned each other out.
Fear cropped in his eyes as he saw her being picked without him.
He hated the thought of losing the flame of his life to others”
Love, not to hold on. Love, because love is you.
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Anuradha Kamath is a Wellness Consultant and Behavioral therapist and assists her clients both in group and individually, as a Hypnotherapist, Energy Healer, Metaphor Therapist, Sound Healer, Access Bar Practitioner and Laughter Yoga Therapist.
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