‘Ego’ is the most abused word in new age spirituality let us understand why. The words that we use to define our experience or how we felt, do not define an ego. These words are mere classifications of the sensations we felt in our bodies. We can classify our feelings as, sad, hurt, angry, etc.
How do we learn to classify our feelings and give them various labels? Well, these are all learned expressions that we have accumulated through our interactions with our family, friends, school, work environment, culture, society etc. This accumulated information and ways of expression summarizes our existence in this highly dynamic world.
These words that define our feeling are coined so that the world at large can understand what we are going through and respond to us accordingly. As example when I declare “I am sad.” I have sent out a message that I need someone to console me. There is nothing wrong in us labelling our feelings and sensations so that people can understand us. However, how we act and react to what we felt is the beginning of creating an altered personality within us called as the Ego.
An Ego can be meek and submissive or can be strong and aggressive. How we have learnt to respond to the circumstances and cope with the consequences defines the states of our Ego. When we are hurt or feel isolated, we have created a heroic entity from within us to step up and take care of us. At this point, the ‘I’ gets separated from the rest of the world and becomes a separate entity.
The separated ‘I’ from ‘All that is’ is only an attention seeking wailing child. Do not ego bash it. Do not beat it up and drill a bullet in it in the name of ‘you are ego’. Listen, understand, shed light, become aware of what is your ego all about.
It is a moment of learning neutrality, moment of experiencing strength over weakness, a moment of feeling your infinite expanse of existence, a time that you learn to be compassionate and loving to both the child in you and the person who triggered sensations in the child, a time of great acceptance of ones’ self and all that is.
The child or ego needs care, understanding, nurturing and a lullaby of soothing till it rests in complete confidence and faith knowing you are there for it every moment, no matter what.
Let your mantra be…
“I know nothing is wrong in me or with me if I’m in love and acceptance of all that comes my way and I treat them as my lessons of evolution and transformation. I asked the universe to make me a perfect person and each experience is only testing and breaking my imperfection.”
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Anuradha Kamath is a Wellness Consultant and Behavioral therapist and assists her clients both in group and individually, as a Hypnotherapist, Energy Healer, Metaphor Therapist, Sound Healer, Access Bar Practitioner and Laughter Yoga Therapist.
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